I am going to change everything! I'm going to train harder, eat cleaner and look better..in the New Year.
Enacting positive change in your health, well-being, lifestyle, relationships, career, performance, body composition and happiness is essentially what the majority of us pine for in our lives. The varying degree to which we achieve these changes are based on a number of factors but here are some dominant themes that I have experienced that equal success. With the year ending and a New one beginning here's some tips on how to be less shite when it comes to New Years Resolutions.
Nature of our expectations......realistic vs unrealistic. For example, declaring you're going to lose 50 lbs in 2 months and be shredded for your holidays as opposed to committing to working hard and consistently for 2 months and trying to feel better in yourself and your clothes. The audacious goal is set for crushing failure, the realistic goal will yield results and create a platform to progress even further. Set a realistic goal, and follow the a plan with accompanying daily habits and if you work hard and consistently it will yield positive results.
50% of your effort x4 times a week is better than a one off all "guts and glory" effort every-time there is a full moon. I want to be better in the New Year
Don't place yourself on a misery pedestal You are doing positive things in your life and if it's going to be positive, you are going to have to be miserable to get there. The more arduous, painful, bleak and tortuous the path the greater the glory at the end. Similar to the "no pain, no gain" mantra but with the bonus of social exclusion(no going to parties, social gatherings, birthday parties) due to the potential exposure to unhealthy food, alcohol etc. 3 a day training sessions, low carb diets, alternate fasting, hardcore intensity 100% of the time , extreme transformation programmes, 100 miles a week running and trying to do all at once.
The higher the volume the louder the results, that's the logic. Suffering is a badge of honour and a right to passage. That’s not a way to live!
The major problem is that this a short-term solution to a lifelong problem. Your reasons for engaging in these behaviours are to effect positive changes in your life, can suffering be your sustainable fuel source to keep them going for the rest of it ??? Getting great results and having fun while doing it should be intertwined. The more you enjoy something, the more likely you are to keep doing it and if this is having a positive influence of making you healthy and happier well then that's the golden ticket! I want to be better in the New Year
Soaking in the social sludge "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.' Jim Rohn.
Just like your parents didn't want you hanging around with the kid on your street that liked to play with matches, your social surroundings can either elevate you to be a better person or drag you down.
Your parents don't make these calls for you anymore, you do! If you are trying to enact positive changes in your life and you encounter hostility, or subtle sabotage through condensation, lack of support or promoting unhealthy distractions continuously..... you need to evaluate whether this is a help or hindrance? Make the decision that's best for you! Hanging around in the same circles because of habit, time, proximity, school, college etc regardless of the consequences is similar to saying you can't lose weight because you get handed a full Irish every morning in a Cafe you go to......go to a different Cafe! "Ah sure it's grand" Things being grand is OK but wouldn't it be better if they were great, try and surround yourself with people who make you feel great or help you achieve great things. This applies massively to social media. Simple question: Does someone you follow offer you value? If you can't answer straight away. Unfollow them! I want to be better in the New Year
Let's meet Will Power...
Preparation always beats willpower! Having excellent decisions already made before it's time to take them is the best way to succeed. However you will have to rely on your will from time to time and seeing it as an ally not as an adversary is a powerful mindset. Your relationship with willpower is more likely defined by its ability to deny you something you want or how it has let you down in the past. Stop eating fastfood, stop drinking, stop smoking, stop binging on my phone. All of these scenarios frame your willpower in a negative light, as more of an adversary, a necessary evil than an ally, a friend or a support. Think of willpower as your greatest ally, it only wants the very best for you, it's there to support/help you achieve the things you want in your life, it is compassionate, it understands your difficulties more than anyone and it wants to help you overcome them. When you start to redefine the role willpower plays in your life you can start to harness it as a tool to help you succeed. I want to be better in the New Year
A simple way to see the positive approach it can play is based on the outcomes of harnessing it:
"How great will I feel if I make my lunch x3 times this week and go to the gym x3 times? Willpower is going to give me a surge of motivation by reminding me of the great results to my health and wellness I'll get and ultimately how fantastic and proud I'll feel for making an effort" Willpower is not about beating yourself with a stick but enabling you to get closer to where you want to be every day.It's a lot more subtle and ever-present and easier than you think. 3 of the most helpful areas where willpower can help you: I want to be better in the New Year